How I left my old life of sins behind

Many people are stuck in a situation where they just always remember the past grudges. I had the same situation 3 months ago. In this article, I will show you how to leave the past behind and live your life on your terms

Leaving past behind is probably the most difficult thing anyone would face. It was so difficult that even building a six-pack physique within 3 months was easier for me than letting go the past. Here is my story:

I messed up!! Yes, I did a lot’s of mistakes in the past. I cheated on my girlfriend, snitching was a habit of mine, I was a toxic friend and hanged out with other toxic people, etc. But that was not it, I sat all day jerking off my pp, ate junk food and also never exercised. But now here I am, learning new skill, hitting the gym 6 times a week, eating vegan and healthy and most important of all, being a lone wolf.

So, to be on point, if you wanna get out of that nasty life too, follow these steps:

Step 1 : Accept your mistakes and forgive all people

Accepting your mistakes and forgiving the toxic people maybe the only way to move on. Accepting your mistakes makes a feeling of acceptancy in your subconscious mind. And even if you can’t forget the past after accepting it, just ask yourself this question : “DOES MAKING MISTAKES MAKES ME A BAD PERSON?”. I am 100% sure asking this question to yourself will make you forget 99% of your past because it makes sense right?!! Humans are not perfect immortal creatures, we are made to make mistakes and then learn from it. God made us that way, so always remember that even if some idiot says to you that you are an idiot for making a mistake, simple don’t give a f*ck because God has made you to make mistakes to gain more experience. And remember that you never repeat a mistake, because “IF YOU MAKE A MISTAKE, IT’S OK BUT IF YOU REPEAT A MISTAKE, YOU ARE THE MOST IDIOTIC PERSON IN THE WORLD”. Learning from the mistakes you made is the right pathway to success, for eg : if you have messed up relationship with you friend because he is too toxic, just break up the relationship with him, even if he apologizes, don’t you dare to be with him again!! forgive him and move on. Now this bring me to a very important point where most people mess up. They forgive wrongly, with that said,

How to forgive rightly

Most people think forgiving someone means being with that toxic person again. But No!! That would be the worst mistake you will ever make in your life. I mean….are you dumb? why would you be with the person who insulted you, messed with your mental health, forced you, etc. again? The answer to this is No!! Forgiving does not mean being with the person again. The right way to forgive a person is to just walk in front of the person , say to him “I forgive you, and I am not gonna hold any grudges against you in the future” and then never……I repeat, Never be with that person again.

So now you’ve left all toxic people behind, forgiven them. Now what? This brings us to the next step:

Step 2 : Find a purpose in your life and stick to it

What is the goal of your life? Do you wanna be an Entrepreneur, or maybe a sportsman at any sports, a car racer? or a stripper? if haven’t figured it out yet, then what are you waiting for? Go and find your passion now!! Because there is a saying that “IF YOU WON’T PUT EFFORTS TO COMPLETE YOUR DREAMS, SOMEONE ELSE WILL HIRE YOU TO COMPLETE THEIRS”. Now or Never!! You have to start working on your dreams now!! because you have to decide if you wanna travel around the world while others will be stuck into 9–5 job, or do you wanna get stuck into 9–5 too. Believe me, if you today put in the work that others are not willing to, you will get what others will never able to. If you wanna be far more than normal, you cannot do the things which normal people do, you cannot put photos on Instagram with the caption “I am unique” and expect to be unique. The thing these idiots on Instagram does not understand is that “UNIQUENESS IS NOT A GIFT, IT’S A CHOICE”. Because even Elon Musk said that “IT IS POSSIBLE FOR ORDINARY PEOPLE TO CHOOSE TO BE EXTRAORDINARY” and the only thing that is gonna make you extra ordinary is putting in efforts to complete your efforts while others are busy showing off how “extraordinary” they are. I think you should always remember the fact that a truly extraordinary person will never show how extraordinary he is, he will always be busy in completing his/her dreams, he doesn’t give a damn if society thinks he is ordinary or extraordinary.

with that said, we now move on to the third step:

Step 4 : Start Improving yourself and don’t you ever dare to stop!!

Read self help books instead of lite novels, learn digital marketing instead of wasting time binge watching on Netflix, hit the gym instead of going to McDonalds, etc. Do what ever you can!! Just take the pledge to change your f*cking life forever and never look back. Investing time on yourself is the best choice I ever made in my life and I strongly think that everyone should do the same. Investing time in yourself instead of giving it to toxic people will allow you to explore yourself and see how you are full of surprises. When I started doing this, I came to an awesome realization that I am made to live a life of a lone wolf!! I am so happy I made the decision to be a lone wolf because I now understand that before making this decision to be a lone wolf, I was forced to be friends with such toxic people because of the peer pressure in my subconscious mind, because of the fear of missing out (FOMO).Because before, whenever I attempted to leave the toxic friend circle, my subconscious mind always popped with thoughts like “If I leave them, I will be alone forever” and some thoughts like “You will miss out on all the fun that you can have in your teenage”. But after investing a lots of time in myself, I came to a realization that I am currently more happy than ever before, by staying alone. I feel connected more to god, my mind comes up with creative thoughts every day. Now, I don’t scroll random stuff through social media to fill the void inside me, I am a man with a purpose and I will dedicate myself to my goals. I may look empty from outside with no friends, but I have a deep sense of God, success and satisfaction within me. So always remember to invest in yourself before you invest in anyone else.

Step 5: Minimize the use of f.o.m.o inducing social media

This maybe the most significant as well as the most important step in leaving the past grudges behind and achieving success in any field. Social media platforms like Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat, Whatsapp, Tiktok, Reddit, etc. Are the worst nightmare for your spiritual growth. I call them “soul destroying platforms” because they create a sense of inferiority complex as well as the fear of missing out in your brain and soul. With each new post you see on Instagram, your inferiority complex increases, you see all these people enjoying their teenage life by drinking, partying and hanging out with opposite sex, but the truth is that they are also as much as normal as you are. They are just spending above their means just to show off.

But as we all know, all social media platforms are not bad, some platforms like LinkedIn, Pinterest, Medium, Signal, etc. make a positive feed in your mind thus allowing you to think more creatively. So unless and until you have businesses like dropshipping and influencing, don’t even dare to go on those soul destroying platforms, just stay away from them. And also an another reason for not going to platforms like Instagram would be that the toxic people from your past would still be there on Instagram, even if you ignore them for long, you will, at some point will engage with them for sure whereas platforms like medium is way out of interesting for those fools.