Why people change when you Improve yourself
This is a story of mine when I noticed in my everyday life, how people around me started to change and look down on me when I started to Improve myself.
These incidents started happening probably a year ago in my life, when I finally decided to change my life.
One year ago, I was broke, low self-esteemed, was not productive at all and was a man without purpose. But things never stay the same, and so I started to change my life. Gradually after 2 months, I replaced anime with article writing and reading, watching web series with learning digital marketing, eating junk food with going to the gym, etc. I was too busy in my life and was also very happy with myself. So much that I didn’t met a single friend of mine for 3–5 months without even noticing that. But one day, while coming home from gym, I saw a friend, and so I went to say hello to him. I though every thing was normal and he was happy that I left the life of sins behind, but surprisingly, he intentionally insulted me in front of some girls passing by. I was like “Dude wtf!! aren’t we friends”, so I left him alone without replying anything, probably thinking that he would understand his mistake later and say sorry to me.
On the next day a.k.a Sunday when I was going to have my coffee with my girlfriend , Another friend of mine stumbled upon me and did the same thing as the previous friend did. At this point I was sure that people are targeting me because of their own inferiority complex, they had a deep fear in their mind that someday near in the future, I am gonna be more successful than they can ever imagine themselves to be. My business mentor and my girlfriend were probably the only people in my life that were endorsing the changes that I were making in myself and my life. Even my parents were also somewhat stuck in the typical middle class mentality. So I was depressed for weeks as how would I fight every single person I knew before?
This is the hypocrisy of our society, so I would humbly advice you guys to stay away from people as far as possible. Because the fake and con friends will only give you company until you start improving yourself. Once they get an idea that you are not the person they knew anymore in a good way, they will start to bring you down where you were. This incident really taught me how to live. I am a lone wolf now, because
“IT IS MUCH BETTER TO WALK ALONE IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION THAN FOLLOWING THE HERD THAT IS GOING IN THE WRONG DIRECTION”
If you are stuck in the same situation, here are some ways that I got out of it:
1. Never Stop Improving yourself
Yes, don’t stop!! Do not pay attention to people anymore because you are not the one who’s changed, in fact they are the ones who are changed because of seeing you grow. Never stop growing and never stop learning. Never stop that digital marketing course that you are about to complete, never stop the gains that are coming through lifting weights, never stop the flow of spirituality that is coming from meditation and and always remember “Never Say Never”.
2. Don’t give a fu*k
Don’t you dare give a single fu*k about the people who are trying to put you down. Because that is what they want. Once you open your mind to them ,they will put in every negative thoughts they can brew and pull you down. Always hang out with people who endorse your change. The people who are changing themselves to live a better life. and always remember that
“YOU CANNOT BE A LION IF YOU HANG OUT WITH TURKEYS” and close your eyes and affirm this : “I AM NOT A WOLF IN A SHEEP’S SKIN, I AM A WOLF IN WOLF’S SKIN, DON’T YOU DARE MESS WITH ME”
the moment you stop giving a fu*k about society, is the moment you end all the suffering of your life. Always look for people who are looking for change in themselves, people who are not afraid to make mistakes, people who will uplift you by saying “dude, don’t worry about failure, learn from it!!”. Because if you hang out with people who just say negative about your failures and insecurities, you are really gonna mess up in life, believe me. Maybe those idiots will give you short term pleasure like hanging out for parties and by drinking beer with you but remember that you need friends who always think of success. Choose your friends wisely, because if you hang out with right friends, you will win over in life but at the same time, if you mess up selecting your friends, you are gonna mess up in your life too!! Sorry if this is rude, but to be honest, I don’t give a f*ck about your feelings!! I just want you to have successful lives, whoever is reading this article.
3. Be Successful
“SUCCESS IS THE BEST REVENGE” — Frank Sinatra
If you are a chilled out guy like me, you will let go the toxic people who insulted you and never meet them again. But if you are like my business mentor, who never haves mercy on his enemies, just be successful. And yes, by success I mean Financial success. This is the only way a person can take revenge. This is like hitting two targets with one arrow, you will kill your toxic friend’s ego and put it in the sewage as well as you will never feel guilty about doing it. Achieving your financial independence is the only way you can live comfortably in today’s world. Well then how do you think that is gonna happen? Most people think success is a very complicated process but here is what process of success looks like to me:
- Learn any high income skill like coding, digital marketing, copywriting, web designing, etc. and earn money from this skill by doing a job or by freelancing
- Start your won business or startup with the money you earned with the high income skill.
And you’re done!! These are the only two steps you need to follow for straight 2–5 years for becoming successful. Success is not easy process but your efforts sure pay off. Hope you enjoyed reading this article. So keep grinding and stay positive!!
